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    caxton
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    Sorry should read GORRON, this predictive text keeps changing it.

    #78121
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    I can’t help thinking that you’re being a bit harsh here Caxton.

    Those of us who live here long term, I’m sure, try to integrate ourselves in the French culture – there would be no point in living here otherwise. Yes, when you first arrive, there’s a tendency to maybe miss the basics that you found difficult to leave behind and you find yourself trying to search out all things English. However, if you remain in this mindset over a long period, you’ll soon get fed up and inevitably move back to the UK. That’s just the way it is.

    The huge advantage of a site like this is that it is set up for those of us who have made France our homes and are, by and large, happy to have done so. It also encourages actual conversation unlike other social media sites (Facebook etc) where small snapshots are the norm.

    Yes, day to day life can be a bit tedious sometimes – that wouldn’t matter where you lived. Life is what you make it. However, day to day postings are important if only to reassure us that, although we live in France, we are still a community and need to keep in touch.

    This is particularly important if someone found themselves in a difficult situation and needed somebody to help them out  bilingually.

    You ignore this site at your peril – one day you might find you need it more than you thought.

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    Sue, my advice would be to just do it! What’s the worse that can happen? You’re obviously pro-active…….  you’ve bought a house in a different country, joined an online forum and asked questions. People of that mindset make things work for themselves. A warrior not a worrier. Go forth, follow your dreams, make it work for you and regret nothing. This forum, and many other similar ones can act like a safety net in many different ways.

    Good luck with what ever you decide to do, and say hello to Devon for me……..Appledore born and bred!  :bye:

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    Agreed, the object of the forum is for members to keep in touch, swap ideas and generally offer a helping hand where needed. Unfortunately some posts are far too long and say very little. Just look back for a couple of years and analyse the content of posts over 15-20 lines long and you will see what I mean. Invariably the longer the post the less interest it contains and the more boring it becomes. Surely the object is to be relevant and informative in as few words as possible thus keeping the readers interest and encourage replies not for the article to die which is often the case.

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    Caxton, nice to see that you are still posting, but can I take issue with some of the things you said.

    In other cases the subject of the posting is so boring and long winded I personally cannot be bothered to read it let alone respond.

    But you did respond, albeit to promote your local British owned businesses. And why not?

    Unfortunately some posts are far too long and say very little. Just look back for a couple of years and analyse the content of posts over 15-20 lines long and you will see what I mean. Invariably the longer the post the less interest it contains and the more boring it becomes.

    Some months ago a friend of yours submitted a post than ran to well over 1600 words and about 120 lines. At the end of it you posted your reply “Well said XXXX, I agree with your comments entirely”.  So you obviously read though that post in its entirety.

     

     

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    Caxton, it’s a difficult one isn’t it – different people want different things from a forum and those that use it have to accept this.

    However, for what it’s worth my feelings are that you can find information in multiple places on the net – generally precise and to the point – the Frenchentree site and indeed this one are good examples – you’ll generally find what you need there without having to have a conversation around it.

    I find that the relevance of this site is you can go past this point. Yes, the information is there, but life is so much more than information and where there is human input and  a written conversation develops, so much the better. If the subject bores you, there’s not a lot you can do about it, so you just move on. The art of this, of course, is being able to put your point of view without being offensive because, as we all know, once this happens, the original conversation actually becomes an irrelevance.

    It looks like we’ll just have to agree to disagree which is fine.

    #78189
    caxton
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    John Doe, It may suprise you to know that I know nobody personally who posts on this site. You have referred in the past to “a friend of mine” which is incorrect. I repeat, as far as I know I do not know anybody. Another case of jumping to conclusions without the facts to back it up.

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    Sorry, Caxton. I got it wrong. From what you have both said, it appears that you both live in the same town and shop in the same shop, eat meat from the same butcher, and visit the same restaurant, and you held the other persons hand, figuratively speaking, on the other thread. I know it is unwise to assume, because if you do you make an ass out of you and me – ASS-U-ME (old Benny Hill joke), but I did it, and hold my hands up.

    The fact remains that you read the monotonous and repetitive diatribe that person posted, without getting bored, and agreed entirely.

    I kept this brief for those with a short attention span!

     

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    United in Normandy Registered users : 698

    So where are they all?  Surely not too bored with over-lengthy posts and subject matter to participate?  I think this is an over-simplification when considering “why isn’t this site used more?” There are probably a myriad reasons why only a small handful of posters exist and I consider that unless someone needs an answer to something or wishes to take advantage of the knowledge of people who have lived in France long enough to know the ropes, they are not going to bother unless they are interested in having a conversation or an exchange of views.  No one recently on UIF, hardly anyone now on UIN.  UIB, however, operates like a club: people who are happy just to chat (and argue) about almost anything.  If enough people contribute, eventually the way in which a Forum might work begins to take shape. If people don’t contribute, any format is bound to fail.

    Meanwhile, lengthy posts?  Guilty as charged, but at least I have made the effort.

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    John, I read it, yes, but it was soon after that I saw the light and realised long posts are not for me. I am a great fan of Readers Digest Condensed Books and have a few. You get the gist of the story without all the flowery bits that authors include to get the word count up to their publishers requirement. KISS should be the objective of all posts but unfortunately some people get carried away and the main subject gets lost in the verbage.

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    Agreed, the object of the forum is for members to keep in touch, swap ideas and generally offer a helping hand where needed. Unfortunately some posts are far too long and say very little.

    I don’t mind those. If I get bored with a post, I stop reading. But I’ll defend its right to exist. ;-)   The posts I dislike and – surprise – there are some on this thread, are those where “a poster” decides to pick apart someone else’s contribution and make snide (they’d say ‘witty’, I’m sure) remarks. When a poster (on another thread) asks a perfectly life in France-relevant question but has to plead for non-sarky responses, you know a forum is in trouble.

    I do use a couple of forums a lot, they’re very busy, cover a complete range of subjects. On one, there’s a small, international contingent (British citizens resident in other EU countries) and I get most of my life overseas interaction with them. Yes, there are few know-it-alls who clearly stroke their ego via their contributions, but they are easily ignored in the general landscape of interesting remarks.

    Various of us are going through the naturalisation process in our respective countries of residence and it’s interesting to contrast and compare and – celebrate – when someone gets their new, shiny passport.

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    I often read the posts on this site, but am reluctant to write posts. Firstly, I don’t quite like the idea that  I can’t delete or edit a post if I should want to, (I know you can for a short time after posting). I also find it uncomfortable that I don’t know who is reading it. With Facebook, for example, I can write things just for the eyes of my friends, who are all people known to me personally.  Also, I’ve seen far too many unkind responses to all sorts of posts, and I’m of a very sensitive nature. Such a thing can ruin my day.   I very much miss Aly’s posts, as it was lovely following someone’s journey.

     

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    Katsura – I have tried to PM you, but I get directed to the Home page. Perhaps you don’t want to be contacted – that’s OK.

    Di, you are quite right, there are too many unkind responses. I don’t like the confrontational nature of a lot of comments.  We can all have respect even if we don’t agree.

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    I’ll keep it short and simple (KISS) for those who prefer it that way. I don’t think it was ever the intention of Reader’s Digest to get rid of “flowery bits”.

    I will comment on a few.  Books by Nobel Prize and Pulitzer Prize winners such as John Steinbeck, William Faulkner and Harper Lee have been condensed. I don’t think such honours are bestowed on writers of “f/bs”. I certainly didn’t find any in To Kill a Mockinbird.

    I’m sure that Freddy Forsyth would be shocked to think that he had written “f/bs” in his novels. As for Len Deighton’s Bomber, there is nothing “flowery” about a bombing raid that went dreadfully wrong, destroying the lives of so many innocent people. It’s a horrible story, beautifully told.

    Publishers don’t insist on a minimum word count, and for as-yet unpublished authors they prefer a shorter novel.

    XXX

     

     

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    Katsura – I have tried to PM you, but I get directed to the Home page. Perhaps you don’t want to be contacted – that’s OK.

    I’ve not had any trouble receiving or sending PMs in the past and haven’t changed any settings so I’m not sure where the problem may lie. Were you signed in when you tried to use the PM system? It’s only available when someone is registered and signed in.

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